I Know About Parental Guidance But What About Spousal Guidance
My son is 10 years old and he spends a fair amount of time online looking up the
latest games and accessories for his Playstation and Wii. He has friends over
and they do some surfing for the sites that interest them. I act as the cyber police
and peek in often to make sure what they are not straying into sites that are
not in their age range.
Last week I was walking by our home "office" and noticed my wife on the computer.
She doesn't spend much time online. An occasional email to friends or looking up
reference material abut once or twice a week. Curiosity got the better of me and
I walked in to see what she was looking at. "Oh My!" she said as she peered at
the monitor. She was looking at a young muscular African American with no shirt
sitting on a bed.
What the....? "OK Missy, what's this all about." Apparently a friend wanted her to
join this friendship site. As we all know friendships online can develop into much
more and has caused a lot of breakups in marriages. My wife said she justed wanted
to see what it was all about and had no interest in getting involved with the website
anymore and wanted me to delete her account.
Don't misinterpret this, we each share a leg in that pair of "pants" that runs the family
I have memberships in Social Communities where Bloggers and Business people intermingle
but "relationship" sites are trouble for married couples and if a spouse is involved in one, it
can lead down a road that can cause a lot of misery.
Back to deleting my Wife's account..before I did, I had another look as this young man's
profile and noticed he's working in China and has a British accent. That's different!
Reading on, I had to chuckle because he's also very witty!
when i was born, I was AFRICAN "When i grew up , i was AFRICAN "
"When i'm sick, i'm AFRICAN " "When i go in the sun, i'm AFRICAN "
"When I'm cold, i'm AFRICAN, " "When i die, i'll be AFRICAN" But you my friend...."
"When you're born, you're pink, " "When you grow up, you're white, "
"When you're sick, you're green, " "When you go in the sun, you turn red, "
"When you're cold, you turn blue, " "And when you die, you turn purple."
"And you have the nerve to call me colored!!
Just for the sake of looking at this sort of thing from a different angle;
My wife does what she likes online, and so do I. We are both grown adults who respect each other, and trust each other so there's no real need for "spousal guidance".
Perhaps, this sort of "guidance" might one day get resented and lead to just the sort of thing you're worried about from the "young muscular African American with no shirt sitting on a bed"?
With respect,
datter
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Thank you for your "deep" insight. You are right of course. Those
days of Archie Bunker and Edith on "All In The Family" are long gone.
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Check this out...
Internet "Lowers Inhibitions"
In a press release, a German Web site designed to facilitate marital infidelity boasted 310,000 users and 1000 new registrations each day. The agency prided itself on providing extramartial liasons with "100 percent anonymity" One of the the directors: "The anonymity of the internet lowers inhibitions" and makes it "easier to establish frank and open contacts."
Another director expressed confidence that the Internet will make infidelity even more popular.
What the!!??...
Gord
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What you are failing to grasp is that, without an inherent *trust* your relationship is worthless. In other words, despite things like the German web site and stats you mention above... if you don't *trust* your spouse you do yourself, her and your relationship a terrible disservice.
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My wife and I have been married for 21 years and we do trust each other.
As in your relationship there is a strong trusting bond and people should
learn from that. I guess my article painted the wrong impression of me.
What I was trying to get across is that relationships and marriages that
are hanging on by a thread are easily broken up by sites like these on
the internet.
Thank you for setting me straight and showing me that I need to clarify
my articles on these matters
Gord
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